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Tuesday, April 3, 2012

Teen Texting Soars- Will Social Skills Suffer?

Teen Texting Addiction

For America's teens, cell phones have become a vital social tool and texting the preferred mode of communication, according to a new poll by the Pew Research Center's Internet and American Life Project.

The report finds that 75 percent of teens between the ages of 12 and 17 now have cell phones, up from 45 percent in 2004. And the number who say they text-message daily has shot up to 54 percent from 38 percent in just the past 18 months.

"There's now an expectation that teens will contact each other via text, and they expect a kind of constant, frequent response," says the Pew Center's Amanda Lenhart, one of the study's authors.

The survey, which was conducted with scholars from the University of Michigan, finds the typical American teen sends 50 texts a day, and a sizable number send double that or more. Some teens text their parents, though most youngsters say they prefer to speak with them by phone.

The Battle Over Cell Phones

This rapid rise in texting has led to confrontation as parents and schools try to control cell phone use. The report finds that parents are trying a variety of ways, from monitoring content to limiting the time of day or number of minutes children may talk or text. Many parents surveyed — 62 percent — say they've taken away their child's cell phone as punishment, though Lenhart says this can backfire: Parents often give children cell phones to keep track of their whereabouts, and don't like giving up that easy access.

At Bethesda-Chevy Chase High School in Maryland last week, students were tapping away on their phones before they even reached the exit doors after classes let out. Sierra Koenick, 17, said she and her friends talk about "everything."

"What's going on, or meet me here, or something," she said. Then she added, laughing, "Usually they're dumb texts, not even worth it."

Koenick says her grandfather once analyzed her monthly bill and estimated that she sends 300 texts a day.

In front of school, junior Daniel Epstein and his girlfriend lounge on the steps, each with a cell phone at their fingertips. Epstein says he once tried to limit his texting by keeping his phone on silent. But when he checked messages at the end of the day, he had 10 from a friend who desperately needed a computer password.

"So sometimes there's really something urgent that you have to respond to," Epstein says.

Surely, a dilemma that many an office worker with a crack-berry can identify with.

Texting Away At School

The Pew report finds that most schools ban texting in class, but allow it in the halls or at lunch. A small minority ban phones outright, but the study finds that neither that, nor parental controls, seem to have much influence on the amount of texting teens do.

At schools where cell phones are forbidden, 58 percent of students with mobile phones say they've sent a text message during class.

In Los Angeles, Harvard-Westlake High School considered an outright ban last year. Nini Halkett has taught history there for two decades and laments the bad spelling and writing that seems to worsen as texting becomes more widespread. As her students are increasingly immersed in texting, Halkett also finds them increasingly shy and awkward in person.

"They can get up the courage to ask you for [a deadline] extension on the computer," she says. "But they won't come and speak to you face-to-face about it. And that worries me, in terms of their ability — particularly once they get out in the workplace — to interact with people."

At Bethesda-Chevy Chase High, several students — — some who embrace texting and one who says he avoids it — voice the same concern. As in Pew focus groups, the teens admit they use texting to avoid confrontation or uncomfortable situations.

But researcher Lenhart says they are also strategic about when not to text, especially with parents:

"We heard from teens who said, 'When I want the yes, I'll go to the phone because my parents can hear my voice, and I can wheedle and charm them, and that's how I'm going to get what I want.' "

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Thursday, March 29, 2012

Is Your Teen's Texting Driving You Nuts?

Teenage Texting Addiction

Alexandra and her mother were having a conversation.

"So, Alexandra, then I told your aunt that maybe we would be able to come and visit some time in July and she …"

"Dada dada. Dada dada," came the first eight notes of Alexandra’s ring tone.

Alexandra immediately picked up her phone and read the message that had just been texted by her friend Danielle. Alexandra then texted a response to Danielle.

"Alexandra, I was talking to you," her mother said.


"I was talking to you."

"Dada dada. Dada dada," went Alexandra’s phone again as Danielle texted her reply to Alexandra. Alexandra read it and texted a return message to her friend.

"ALEXANDRA! I was talking to you. That is so impolite."

If anything, it has become more so. As teens have increasingly shifted to texting rather than phone conversations– which they still do as well– the sheer quantity of incoming and outgoing messages can seem staggering. A few hundred a day is not unusual. According to a U.S. study by The Nielsen Company released last year, the average American teen sends nearly 80 texts a day.

Say we were to propose to Alexandra, "What if you muted the phone and didn’t read Danielle’s text or respond to it until after your conversation with your mother?"

Her probable response: "Why would I want to do that?"

I have watched teenagers conversing with one another and they think nothing of interrupting the conversation to respond to a phone call or a text. But so too, the other teen– the one who did not get the call– seems to think nothing of it, and will either wait or perhaps send a text of their own.

Teen conversations frequently include teens talking with each other in person, while simultaneously communicating with friends over their cellphones– multi-person conversations with some friends present in person, some by phone.

Perhaps they don’t think of it as rude when they talk among themselves, but don’t they understand how rude it is when they do it with adults?

"No, my parents are just being bossy. They think you have to pay total attention to them when they are talking to you. What’s the big deal? They are so controlling. Everything has to be the way they want it, even if it doesn’t make any sense."

It may be that the future will be different. It may be that when they get to be the adults who run the world, the rules about what is polite and what is not will have changed. They just won’t see it the way we did. But what about now?

A mistake– because it accomplishes nothing other than creating bad feeling between you and your teen– is to try too hard to get them to understand, to persuade them that what they are doing is inconsiderate and wrong. They simply don’t see it that way.

"When a person is talking to you it is rude, it is disrespectful to interrupt the conversation and start communicating with someone else on a phone."

"I don’t mind it. Why should you?"

The point is not whether they get to see that it is rude. The point is that you find it unpleasant. The point is that out of courtesy to you, they should not take phone calls in the middle of conversations with you. It’s the same reason you take off your shoes when you go into someone else’s house.

It is one of the basic rules of harmonious human interaction. It’s not a question of right or wrong, but how the other person feels. If what is being asked of you is not a great inconvenience or a source of real suffering, then there is no reason to act in a way that brings discomfort to another.

(Of course, she may see it differently. "It is a source of suffering. I’ll have to wait to find out what Danielle wants. That’s suffering for me.")

Rather than condemn their behaviour, tell them that – out of courtesy to you, out of respect for your feelings– you don’t want them to interrupt their conversations with you so they can answer a text.

"Alexandra, I understand that you may not see it as rude. But when I am talking to you I would greatly appreciate it if you would hold off on responding to calls until after we’re done talking."

"But I don’t see the point."

"The point is that it is unpleasant for me. It is not something that I am going to get used to. When you are with me I want it to be one of the rules. I am asking that you not take calls when we are talking because it is unpleasant for me."

And with most teens– so long as you stay out of a right-or-wrong argument – just saying the above will change their cellphone behaviour with you. Not completely – you don’t get completely with teens– but you will see a change for the better (for you).

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Tuesday, March 27, 2012

Study: Teens Texting More, Hanging Out Less

Teen Texting Addiction

For those of you with teens of your own, this may not seem like news: According to a new Pew Internet & American Life Project report, teenagers are texting more than ever before at the expense of most other forms of communication.

The average teen in the study sent 60 texts a day, up about 20% from three years ago. Teens aged 14 to 17 sent an average of 100 texts a day, up about 67%. A full 75% of teens actively text, and 77% have smartphones.

Predictably, if teens are texting more, the study shows that they're calling less. Only 39% of teenagers said they make mobile calls daily and 14% talk daily on landlines, as compared to 63% who text daily.

Teenagers in the United States are texting more than ever before and they're more likely as well to have a Smart Phone in their hands, according to a survey released Monday.

On average, youngsters aged 12 to 17 sent 60 text messages on a typical day in 2011, 10 more than they did two years earlier, the Pew Internet and American Life Project found.

Older girls were the most enthusiastic texters, sending 100 texts a day, Pew said.

Boys sent exactly half that number, or 50 text a day, but even that was higher than the average of 30 texts they sent per day in 2009.

"When asked generally about how they communicate with people in their lives- not just about their friends, but about all kinds of people- teens point to text messaging as the dominant daily mode of communication," it said.

Pew also said 23 percent of the 799 youngsters who took part in its telephone survey in the continental United States in April through July last year had a Smart Phone, such as an iPhone or a BlackBerry.

Seventy-seven percent had a cellphone of one kind or another and little changed from 2011 but far above the 44 percent who owned cellphones in 2004.

Suburban white teenagers with parents who had at least a high school education, living in homes with a total income of more than $75,000, were more likely than others to have a cellphone, the Pew researchers found.

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Saturday, March 24, 2012

14,000 Text Messages A Month

Teen Texting Addiction

When Pennsylvanian 13-year-old Morgan Pozgar won the title of fastest mobile phone text messager in America, she claimed she owed it all to sending 8000 sms messages a month.

Parents shuddered.

But their worst imaginings probably couldn’t prepare them for how 13-year-old Reina Hardesty’s father Greg felt when he opened his daughter’s 400-page mobile phone bill and discovered she had sent 14,528 text messages in just 30 days.

Texting Teenagers

Mr Hardesty worked it out to about one message for every two minutes the New York teen was awake.

His daughter said she messaged a core group of “four obsessive texters” of girls aged 12 and 13 years old which kept her thumbs busy during her conscious hours.

Reina and her friends said they took full advantage of the unlimited text bonus included in their $30 phone plans – even sending messages to each other while they were sitting next to each other.

Woombye teenager Charlie De Deyne and her friend, Chloe Cottee, both 16, admit to being serial texters.

But even they find Reina’s accomplishment hard to take.

“That is ridiculous,” Chloe said.

“How is that even possible?’’

The St Margaret’s Anglican Girls School students said they each send on average 50 text messages a day because they found it a more casual form of communication.

“But it depends on the day and it is included in my pre-paid plan. It is just easier,” Charlie said.

And although Charlie sheepishly admitted to sending a text message to someone in the same classroom as her, much to Chloe’s amusement, she said she still preferred speaking to her friends directly.

The average 13 to 17-year-old will send about 58 messages a day.14,000 texts a month

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